Controversial Conversation

Who's To blame? US or THEM (society)?

       Many people in today's world often blame TV as being one of the many bad influences for the younger generations. My question i will discuss is this, Is it really TV or what we choose to believe and accept that wrongly influences young people?

   

   Here's the P ( my point) : Personally, I think everyone is at fault as to why society has so much influence,say so, and upper hand with whats acceptable and not acceptable. TV, Music, and the media play a huge role on the constant brainwash to the people of society. Men nowadays display it's okay to degrade women thus causing women making it okay for them to degrade themselves as well as allowing it from the men.  For example, Love and Hip Hop is a TV show based off individuals who  are  in or trying to be in the music industry mainly. Their everyday life is shown once a week for millions of viewers to see. Granted, what's shown can all be fabricated, many buy into the show they give. Sounds harmless so far right? Well  get this strippers, ex's of rappers and producers, and "video models" -->  video vixens<--- all behave in savage, self disrespecting, image ruining ways. From showcasing violence, to women shaking their body parts degrading themselves for a dollar , this show showcases these behaviors to the public in a glamorizing way which in return brainwashes society into accepting this and wanting these types of lifestyles as their own. This show mainly catches the eyes of the people within the younger generations.

    As a African American woman looking at other women of my culture , stripping for money is something I believe whole hardly  women have abused, glamorized and made acceptable in order to "get on top". Rappers especially glamorize it as well as men in general. Granted the average single man is interested in this act, but i do believe it has gotten out of hand since the new millennium began. Even in the late 90's i would say it began to get out of hand and now its gone to far. Just a reminder it may have been an issue in early years than the ones I am stating but considering I was not alive then I can only speak on the this topic the years I have been. How much further do you have to go to degrade yourself? Sex tapes are the new scandal that people use to gain fame, money, and exposure. How much more of a sellout on themselves to reach what they consider "the glamour life?" How far of self disrespect are our young men and women willing to show?  What tone does conforming with society and displaying damaged morals and values set for the younger generations to come?

    As a African American woman, looking at how these guys treat women as pieces of meat and trophies is disgusting. What makes them think they can throw dollars at the  (STRIPPERS-scared little girls who disrespect themselves for attention and money) and praise them as goods then disrespect the women who have set morals and values as well as goals integrity and CLASS? Its ass backwards if you ask me. If you wouldn't bring her home to show off to your family, why praise her up?  Praise up the woman who's worth spending your life with and meeting your family.  Also, men lets be real with ourselves here, instead of posting pictures on social networking sites of money, drugs, half naked scared little girls who are willing to self disrespect for a little piece of change lets try posting pictures of a college degrees, poems, accomplishments, something worthwhile. If your dream is being a rapper, speak on things that are worthwhile and can make a difference. Don't  just conform into the "typical rapper" just to make a little money. There has to be more to a song other than a catchy hook, degrading women and reflecting on how much money you think you have and what you can buy with it.  AND TO ADD THIS VERY IMPORTANT NOTE, IT IS NOT ALL BLACK MEN AND WOMEN IT IS ALL MEN AND WOMEN OF ALL ETHNICITIES WHO DO THIS!  WHITE, HISPANIC, MIXED BREEDS, CHINESE, JAPANESE ETC..NO SHADE JUST A LITTLE SOMETHING FOR YOU TO THINK ABOUT.

    As a African American women, looking at the parents and grand parents of all generations, I see a constant pattern of inconsistency, ignorance, and a lot of people who didn't know better that failed to give any type of knowledge to their children on life and how to move in it.  If there were better parents there would be better products of children.No, Not everyone has failed and not everyone' s parenting style is the same. With that being said, IF and i say IF more women would step up and show these young girls that they're SELF WORTH is something they should never sell, let another diminish, and fill them with they are of value, maybe there would be LESS scared little girls degrading and disrespecting themselves. IF and i say only IF there were more men and less scared little boys who think degrading a woman makes a man, there would be a significant amount of bashing towards black men decreased. Black men constantly complain about the term "Black men aint sh**", but in the mean time they have set no respectable morals and values to go against odds already against them. How can you get mad at this saying when a lot of you guys encourage women degrading themselves, call women out their names, exploit women and glamorize it so well its conditioned in young minds as acceptable? Overall on men in general , the image is being painted more negatively than ever before. There's only so much more than can be said in hopes people will wake up, smell the coffee and make better choices.
Overall, this post was not to bash anyone, its just stating facts on how society is nowadays and the opinions that are really out there. Yes, shows such as Love and Hip Hop, Basketball Wives, "Bad Girls" Club, showcase horrific examples of what is being fed to the public. If you are strong enough to know that that's not HOT and not how women and men need to act I salute you and encourage you to reach out to others. If you easily conform and accept this foolery that goes on all i have to say to you is.... #FixItJesus  
So again I Ask who's to blame? Us for conforming or Society for brainwashing?